My devoted devotees, (if you do not count yourself among this elite population I invite you to visit the sidebar and sign up, follow me....NOW...go to.) I feel as though I have been a part of the blogging world long enough now to share with you something from the vast stores of my knowledge.
Have you always wanted to be able to make a hat like this?
Or an adorable headband like this?
Or a garden box like this?
via whoopsy vaisey
Or booties like this?
via Design Mom
Or a birthday cake like this?
Or a scarf like this?
or a dress like this?
Really? You have???
Instead I will show you how to take a very bad case of the blues and turn them into a case of ... a lighter hue of the blues almost back to a normal shade. Ready?
Here I am feeling very sorry for myself because I believe I am a total failure because I can't make any of those things pictured above.(or maybe it is because my house is unorganized, or I forgot to pick up a child from rehearsal or I yelled at someone. It doesn't really matter but for this tutorial we will say that it is because I think I can't make these thingies.)
And then I start thinking about ALL the places where I fall short and start feeling really hopeless.
Step 3 (and this is the most important part)
I just smack myself in the forehead and say "Rebekah, you are being ridiculous." (Except you might not want to call yourself Rebekah. I like calling myself Rebekah because it reminds me that that is my name.)
Step 4 (no, wait, THIS is the most important part)
I reframe the whole thing. Like this: Just because you haven't made these crafty wonders doesn't mean you don't do lots of things really well. You are a champion movie watcher. You made some very nice humans once from scratch. Remember that time you made crackers for an entire month because you refused to buy anything in a package? Remember when you didn't get in a car for a whole summer and rode your bike everywhere with your kids in the trailer just to prove you could? Remember when you ran a very very slow marathon? Remember that one time that you made dinner? See? You CAN do things, Rebekah. You are a work in progress.
The Finished Product
And look at that. Do you see it? It's called hope. After a few simple steps you feel like you can take on the next challenge.
And it might even be something you knit.
For more tutorials along these lines may I suggest you read the book "Learned Optimism" by Martin E.P. Seligman. Its a goody. And it's just good strategy.